Changing Patterns – Build a community of Joe's

This is the last blog of a six part series to help you achieve the results you want in 2015.

We are eleven weeks into the new year and if you are like most people with new year’s resolutions, you are back to old habits and patterns. You may have started out strong, but you have gotten off track.

Sometimes there are legitimate reasons that are beyond your control. For the most part, detours from your plan to achieving results is due to giving into distractions, feelings such as “I don’t feel like it”, or just plain ‘ol loss of focus….I can relate!

How to maintain your “want to” factor and resolve to keep on keeping on?

Surround yourself with people who are truth tellers. Selectively choose people who will encourage you while firmly reminding you of what you said you wanted to change. These are people who you know and trust and will tell you what you need to hear, instead of what you want to hear.

One such person is a colleague, Joe, from the Pittsburgh Chapter of the National Speaker’s Association. Joe and I meet periodically to share how we doing to grow as speakers and reach our business goals.

Last December when Joe and I met before Christmas I was sharing with him about a new program I was developing. In a very kind and yet direct manner, Joe reminded me – “Bonnie, that’s not who you’ve told me before is your target market?” He was right. I had lost my focus and needed to figure out what that was about. Through our conversation I realized fear had gotten in the way of my focus. It was because of this experience that I decided to write this series of Changing Patterns. With each blog, I was speaking as much to me as I was to you. I thank Joe for his willingness to tell me what I needed to hear instead of what I wanted to hear.

Gratefully I have four other people in my life who are my circle of truth tellers. Just like Joe, I have given them permission to tell me things they see that can be my blind spots. It is ultimately up to me to decide what I will do with what they tell me. I consider their opinion and sometimes we disagree and it leads to a lively conversation! I always grow as a result of it and our respect for one another deepens as we support one another to be our very best.

Who are your “Joe’s”?

Changing Patterns Tips in Review:

Tip #1: Have mental clarity of where you want to be a year from now

Tip #2: Develop a plan to prepare for resistance from yourself and/or others

Tip #3: Focus your attention on behaviors that will drive results

Tip #4: Challenge limiting beliefs

Tip #5: Consider if your family paradigm is holding you back from success

Tip #6: Build a community of “Joe’s”

Make the conscious choice to surround yourself with people who support your goals and care enough to tell you what you need to hear, not just what you want to hear