I wouldn’t go in there if I were you

“I wouldn’t go in there if I were you”

“What do you mean?”

“He’s in one of those moods.”

“Thanks for the heads up, I’ll come back when the coast is clear.”

Could this interchange between two of your employees be about you?  Do people know when to stay away from you because they sense your irritability or under the surface/simmering anger?   Does your staff know from firsthand experience you lash out before they’ve had a chance to explain where they are coming from?

If you are a leader who thinks that your mood doesn’t affect your team, you are wrong.

Brain science research shows that a leader’s mood affects the emotions of those around them.  People subconsciously sense the mood of the most emotionally expressive individual, both positive and negative.  As a leader, you set the tone for the work culture.  Likewise, whatever behavior, positive and negative, you allow from your team also contributes to the overall work environment.

In Patrick Lencioni’s book, The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, he cites the root cause of dysfunction is absence of trust.  When people do not trust the intentions of those they work with, it leads to four other dysfunctions:  fear of conflict, lack of commitment, avoidance of accountability, and inattention to results.

If you would like to increase employee engagement and productivity, one of the best things you can do is bring your best self to work every day.   If you think you are bringing your best self, would you be open to discovering how your team perceives you?  Are you willing to receive feedback from your team in order to increase trust, communication, and ultimately the bottom line for the organization?

It would take a strong and secure employee to tell you the truth if you are difficult to get along with, unpredictable, abrasive, and even rude.    The most successful Leaders are those who take the initiative to have an awareness of how their behavior affects others.  For example, examining how your demeanor could be affecting your staff turnover rate or productivity of your team.

The practice of Mindfulness creates mental habits that foster self-awareness and understanding.    If you or a staff member has problems with anger and impatience, Mindfulness is a resource to help you become less reactive. Mindfulness helps you become calmer when dealing with challenging interpersonal situations.   It will help you learn how to respond instead of react when emotionally triggered and it will help you better handle the fast-changing workplace conditions you face every day.

If you would like to enhance your Leadership Presence, the opportunity is only a week away.  Register now to attend the workshop on April 1st – “Innovative Solutions for Business Leaders…Dealing with difficult employees and people.”  During this workshop, you’ll discover how to deal with conflict effectively and how your presence as a Leader influences your team.

Make a Conscious Choice to increase your self-awareness and understanding, and you will become a leader your team will follow.

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