A Holiday Ritual That Changed How My Family Connects

The wrapping paper is about to fly. The kids are buzzing with anticipation. Everyone’s ready to tear into the presents. And I’m about to do the thing that makes my nephews groan… ask three questions. Several years ago, I started a holiday ritual with my extended family. After our Christmas Eve meal and before we…

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Is Your Childhood Conflict Pattern Showing Up in Your Leadership?

You’re in a tense meeting. A project has derailed. Emotions are running high. How do you respond? Do you take control and demand compliance?Avoid the conversation altogether?Smooth things over with excessive reassurance?Crack a joke to lighten the mood?  What most leaders don’t realize is, the way you handle conflict today was likely learned by age…

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The Uninvited Guests at Your Holiday Table (And How to Handle Them)

You’re sitting at the Thanksgiving table. The turkey is carved. The conversation is flowing. But there’s a heaviness in the air that no one’s naming. Your brother made that comment about your job… again. Your uncle is steering every conversation toward politics. Your mother-in-law’s passive-aggressive remarks are landing with precision. The table is supposed to…

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The 3 C’s of Difficult Conversations: How to Stay Grounded When the Conversation Gets Tough

As a leader, Ben knew he needed to address Bob’s abrasive behavior. Bob had a pattern of dismissing colleagues’ ideas in meetings, sending curt emails that left people feeling belittled, and making sarcastic comments that created tension across the team. Ben found every reason to avoid the conversation. He anticipated Bob being defensive. He worried…

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The Culture You Tolerate Is the Culture You Create

What do your employees feel when they walk into work each day? Sal walked through the front door of his office and immediately felt the tension.  A familiar knot formed in his stomach as he headed to his desk. While many of his coworkers were friendly, he dreaded interacting with one person in particular, someone…

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