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5 Steps to motivating abrasive leaders to change
If you are on the verge of losing valued employees because of a top-performing leader’s abrasive behavior, you’ll appreciate the following 5 steps to motivating abrasive leaders to change. Perhaps you’ve heard complaints from employees as they head for the door: TEAM MEMBER A tells you she’s leaving because of repeatedly being yelled at in…
What is a Fixer? The Costs and Benefits of Taking Charge
Have you ever found yourself stepping into a situation at work or at home, and taking on the task of solving other people’s problems? Perhaps at the expense of your time, energy, and even money, you tend to step in to save the day? Do you ever feel overwhelmed by the demands of constantly trying…
Why self-control is the engine of your success
Do you have a goal you’ve been striving for but haven’t yet reached? Whether it’s finishing a project, addressing team dysfunction, or having a tough conversation, self-control is the engine of your success. It’s the driving force that keeps you focused and persistent, and tools like the If-Then Plan can help you harness that power…
How to give honest feedback to an abrasive superior
By all accounts, Jack is a successful leader. He’s an industry trailblazer that others look to for his expertise. Financially, he is doing well and his business is thriving. On the outside, Jack has many markers of success. What Jack doesn’t realize is how abrasive his behavior is to others. What is obvious to others…
How one leader learned to deal with an angry boss
Learning to deal with an angry boss can be challenging, but it’s often influenced by how we handled conflict growing up. For Lee, a senior leader featured in How Did My Family Get In My Office?!, her childhood experiences with an unpredictable and angry father shaped the skills she now uses to navigate workplace challenges with…
Giving Recognition to your “Steady Eddy” Employees
As a leader, giving recognition to your “Steady Eddy” Employees is just as important as putting out fires. So much time goes to dealing with employees who exhibit disrespectful, abrasive, and overall negative behavior. Before you know it, most of your attention has gone to the problem employee and overlook the employee whose behavior is…
Say Goodbye To The Workplace Drama Triangle And Hello To Strong Boundaries
Have you encountered drama in your workplace lately? Let me introduce you to the Workplace Drama Triangle, its roles, and strategies for navigating and resolving conflict efficiently. It may sound like a silly question since leaders often describe disagreements as escalating into unnecessary drama that takes away from getting work done. A conflict resolution called…
Are your dysfunctional family conflict patterns affecting your leadership conflict patterns?
Great, it’s happened again. An abrasive leader has exploded on one your team members yet again. The team member is embarrassed, afraid to contribute when the leader is around, and becoming disengaged from the organization. The last time this happened you swore to yourself that you’d address it the next time it came up, but…
Real-life examples of leaders who transformed their conflict style for the better
When was the last time that something you had waited a long time for FINALLY happened? On November 10, 2022 we finally celebrated – in-person – the leaders who contributed to my book How Did My Family Get In My Office?! The book was published 2 years ago in November, at the height of the…
Does your Staff Meeting Remind you of a Tense Holiday Meal?
Imagine you have a high-performing team member, let’s call him Rob. He’s worked for your organization for years and knows your business inside out. While Rob is one of your most valued employees from a performance perspective, he has some rough edges in how he treats people. When projects don’t go as planned, his temper…