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Steps To Turn Around Abrasive Employee Behavior
This is a four part series of blogs addressing the question "Can abrasive employees really change?". In Part I we addressed the importance of the manager working through their own anxiety before intervening with the abrasive employee. Today we address how to create the conditions of change through a proven...
Can Abrasive Employees Really Change?
When people inquire about my coaching program in working with employees to turn around abrasive behavior, I am often met with the question can people really change? My answer is emphatically “yes” people can change, whether change actually occurs depends. Angry business man screaming at employee in the office Change is...
When Your Purpose Is Taken Away
Seventeen people arrived for the interview, nervous yet determined. You see this wasn't your typical interview. It was an audition for a chorus line. The 17 people soon learned that only eight would be chosen, four women and four men. Then tension mounted. As the audition continued with the dancers learning...
What behaviors do you create or accept on your work culture?
As Sal walked into the front door of the ABC Company of where he worked, he immediately felt the tension. He sensed a familiar knot in his stomach as he walked through the halls to his office. While many co-workers were friendly, he dreaded interacting with one co-worker in particular...
3 Choices In Dealing With Abrasive Bosses
Nick is a hardworking, forward-thinking employee. He has tried for almost four years to get along with his abrasive boss. Despite repeated efforts to work collaboratively, he was met with condescension, micro-managing, and disrespect. A good day at work was when he didn't have to interact with his boss or...
A Mom Who Made Wrongs – Right
As most of you know before my current role as a speaker and coach I was a Marriage & Family Therapist, I had the privilege of watching individuals, couples, and families take the skills we discussed and turn around unresolved conflicts in their lives. During this week leading up to...
The Mental Mindset For Difficult Conversations
As a leader, Ben knew he needed to address Bob's abrasive behavior towards co-workers, but found every reason to avoid it. He anticipated Bob being defensive instead of taking responsibility for his behavior and the impact on the work culture. Perhaps you have a "Bob" in your work setting that...
Three ways to increase employee brain functioning
"I don't have time for that touchy feely stuff, that doesn't get the product out of the door" "People are lazy, if I'm not hard on them nothing will get done" "I was never coddled, and I turned out okay" The above are quotes from leaders who believe a dominant,...
Uninvited Guests at The Holiday Table
Many of us will be sitting around a dinner table over the next several weeks as we celebrate the Holidays - be it with family, coworkers, or a neighborhood cookie exchange. The table represents a place of gathering, a time of connection, a place of replenishment - both in food...